Do Ask, Do Tell
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- ISBN 9781035042098
- Dimensions: 130 x 197mm
- Publication Date: 21 May 2026
- Publisher: Pan Macmillan
- Publication City/Country: GB
- Product Form: Paperback
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What is a black cat lesbian? Is ‘aromantic’ a sexuality or a preference? How are bisexual and pansexual different? What’s it like to be queer and religious? Does Gen Z do darkrooms? How do you navigate life as a OAQ (Old Age Queer)? What does trans euphoria feel like? Why is nightlife so central to the community? What is camp today?
As queer people themselves, authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley knew they didn’t have all the answers, because their individual experience represents a single pixel of the rainbow. Do Ask, Do Tell is an unapologetically curious journey through the dazzling spectrum of queer life that will give people – queer, straight, cis and everything in-between – the confidence to say 'I don’t know'.
With humor, warmth, and radically open minds, Stu and Lotte tackle the questions you may have avoided asking for fear of getting it wrong. Covering everything from ageing to open relationships, darkrooms to Drag Kings, camp to carabinas, as well as the intricacies of gender and sexuality.
This insightful and provocative exploration challenges assumptions, shatters taboos, and opens up the conversation. Whether you’re seeking clarity for your cis straight self or deeper insight as a member of the community, this book is your guide to better understanding and celebrating the richness of queer life.
'Bursting with empathy, understanding and humour' – Suzi Ruffell, bestselling author of Am I Having Fun Now?
Stu Oakley and Lotte Jeffs are the authors of Do Ask Do Tell and The Queer Parent, the first LGBTQ+ focused parenting book to be published by a mainstream press, and hosts of award-winning podcast queer parenting podcast Some Families.
Stu Oakley is a leading film and TV publicist, having worked on major franchises including Star Wars, Barbie, Paddington and Jurassic World.
Lotte Jeffs is also the author of This Love, a novel dubbed ‘One Day for a new generation’ by Grazia, and picture book My Magic Family. She is a celebrated magazine writer and editor, and was previously Deputy Editor of Elle.
