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How Not to Be a Hot Mess
intimacy
lasting love
long-term relationship
marriage
meditation
mindfulness
partnership
personal transformation
playfulness
relationship
respect
restlessness
romantic fulfillment
self-help
spiritual
spirituality
stress
Product details
- ISBN 9781649634375
- Weight: 286g
- Dimensions: 154 x 233mm
- Publication Date: 18 May 2026
- Publisher: Sounds True Inc
- Publication City/Country: US
- Product Form: Paperback
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Partnership is rough. In This Messy, Gorgeous Love, married Buddhist teachers nico and devon hase help readers thrive in long-term relationships, well after the honeymoon shine has faded. This nuts-and-bolts guide offers a pathway to deep intimacy in the real world, where partnership is difficult but genuinely worth it.
“If you're struggling, you can use that struggle to open your heart and connect with your partner,” write nico and devon in this refreshingly candid guide. Through heartfelt guidance - complete with practices, exercises, and reflections - readers will learn to:
• Face relationship challenges with presence instead of perfectionism
• Develop meditative skills to hold emotions with awareness
• Communicate effectively during inevitable ups and downs
• Get real without losing connection
• Find each other again and again
Instead of chasing an idealised relationship, “fixing” their partner, or losing themselves, readers will discover how their current committed relationship can become a vehicle for opening their heart, clarifying their mind, and awakening to deeper truths. This book isn't about everlasting happiness - it’s about building something even better: a partnership where you can be happy in love, thrive in conflict, and have honest fun together, all while embracing the beautiful mess that makes your connection uniquely yours.
nico and devon hase are married Buddhist teachers who help others blossom in the beautiful challenge of long-term romance. nico lived in a monastery for six years before earning a PhD in counseling psychology. devon teaches at Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and other meditation centers. Coauthors of How Not to Be a Hot Mess, they live in a converted van named "Chanda"-experiencing firsthand the rocky terrain of partnership in close quarters. For more, visit devonandnicohase.com.
