How to Be the Love You Seek: the instant Sunday Times bestseller

UK bestseller, Sunday Times, December 2023

'I love Dr Nicole LePera. She helps me a lot.' GWYNETH PALTROW

'A practical and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others and to our hurting world.' DR GABOR MATE´

'A loving, patient, and powerful guide to creating happy, fulfilling life relationships of all kinds. How to Be the Love You Seek is a masterwork of awareness and compassion.' JAY SHETTY

A radical new path to revolutionise your relationships

Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, a parent, child, friend or colleague, the dynamic is frequently the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better, yet nothing you try seems to work.

Author of international bestseller How to Do the Work, Dr Nicole LePera has heard these frustrating patterns of loneliness, disconnection, and resentment described time and again, both from patients in her clinical practice and from her global online community @the.holistic.psychologist. In this groundbreaking book she offers a new path to healing our relationships by tapping into the power of the heart.

How to Be the Love You Seek harnesses the latest scientific research to teach us how to recognise our dysfunctional patterns, identify their roots in our earliest relationships, break painful cycles, build security and share compassion with ourselves and others.

Through stories, exercises, journal prompts, and other practical tools, Dr LePera empowers us first to strengthen our foundation of self-love, paving the way for deeper, more harmonious connections with those around us.

When you become the love you seek, you have the power to transform every relationship, from your most intimate partnerships to the bonds that hold our communities together.